It wasn't just a uniform - it was a selfhood. Yet another had a magnificent silver wig and every single color on her body.
Another had a black slip dress and sneakers. One wore a silver puffer jacket and blue Rothy's flats.
Each person had a specific style, and they differed wildly. When I met my coworkers, it wasn't at all how I imagined them.
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I spotted myself, bedecked in - what else - a deeply unflattering floral dress, pink flats, and a light purple jacket (you know, to complete the look!), and audibly uttered, "NO." But I hadn't the slightest idea how to get started on improving the situation. In 2014, as I was scouting wedding locations with my husband-to-be, he took a few candid snaps. Technically, my path towards fuller clothing expression had begun a few years before. In fact, I hadn't a shred of personal style to speak of. I had no Chanel boots à la Anne Hathaway in The Devil Wears Prada. When it came time to meet them in person, though, I was worried. I worked remotely but quickly became close with my colleagues trepidatiously, I came out, and was met with warm appreciation. By then I was safer, in a relationship with a supportive partner and away from people who might automatically denigrate me. Then I started working as a news writer for a women's fashion magazine in 2018, which had been a dream of mine since I was 6. There were a lot of knee-length flower situations. For a long time, I was worried that people would intuit I was bisexual unless I overcompensated, so I perpetually looked like spring was erupting out of me. Eventually I landed on a style I now refer to as "inoffensive hetero." It was…a lot of Ann Taylor, to be honest that SNL skit about " dressing like a fashion coward because you're a stranger to yourself" would have applied embarrassingly well. If a person doesn't place focus on it, bisexuality itself can translate to "passing" as straight. So, clothing was an excellent - and effective - way to hide.
If I dressed too "sexy" or even too feminine, it would place me squarely on the bad side of the madonna-whore binary. Marten every now and then, it would be a dangerous signal of nonconformity. If I dressed in any way that was masculine beyond a trendy Dr. The restriction of religion, both on my body (sex education was simple: no sex) and my sexuality (it wasn't homosexuality, it was sodomy, and you were definitely going to hell) was a different problem. Being gay (i.e., a loser) was a social death sentence, and I didn't need another reason for people to exclude me. "Gay" in my Catholic, all-girl, uniformed middle school just meant you were weird and had braces and didn't wear Hard Candy nail polish like the other girls. In the '90s, we weren't really at a place to understand the definitions within the LGBT community, much less embrace difference. I was raised conservative, both religiously and socially. Did you know I’m bi? 📷 Mike Igoeįor a long time, I wanted to avoid any and all indications of my sexuality. The general advice if you want to "look" like a bisexual is to wear whatever you want (see also this hilarious Quora post on being your best, "bi-sexy" self), but lots of bisexuals find their own particular balance between masc and femme. It sometimes requires a bit of mental arithmetic if you want to signal who you are clearly through your clothing, short of wearing a shirt with the word "bisexual" on it - or in my case, clothes with rainbows and one shirt with a cheerful "Why Not Both?" emblazoned on the front. A bi person in a relationship with a masculine partner - as I am - might get labeled as straight unless we signify otherwise similarly, a bi person in a relationship with a feminine partner might get labeled as a lesbian. There's no "one" way to dress bi, and it's not as clearly defined as, say, butch and stud lesbians. It's both the subject of light ribbing, thanks to ever-present meme culture - you love hoodies, flannel, or leather, always expose your ankles, and cuff your jeans and tuck in your shirts all of them except the flannel apply to me - and a way to de-erase ourselves from the queer community. Bisexual style, then, is an interesting kind of intersection.
Intentional dressing can be a powerful form of expression and an important signifier.
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